These last eight weeks were the longest-shortest weeks of my life.
Of course, I’m sure every mom of a newborn has thought the exact same thing. Since my three-year old was born, I had somehow forgotten how the nights seemingly drag on and the weeks fly by. My little Kate is already eight weeks old! And in those eight short weeks, I’ve been reminded nearly daily that we’re not meant to live life on our own. We were made to be in ongoing communion with God and to find community with others.
I’m not going to lie. Many of the days since Kate’s birth were really hard. (Really hard = short for tear-filled, ugly, and painfully exhausting days). Big life changes are hard. After the birth of Liam in 2014, every day seemed like an uphill climb to nowhere with no relief in sight.
But you know what? God has been gracious to me and has taught me a lot in three years. The days where I previously wallowed in self-pity for hours on end are being transformed into crying out to God for help in those sleep-deprived moments. (You know, when your baby is awake for the sixth time in a night). I’m far from perfect, of course, but this time around I get it.
Motherhood is not meant to be done alone.
To all you moms out there: Motherhood is not a contest against ourselves or other moms to see who is the best self-sufficient mama. If we continually seek God, motherhood doesn’t have to be an uphill climb to nowhere. Instead, the Holy Spirit can coach us through the marathon of motherhood. He fills our cup along the way and quenches our soul with encouragement each time we get in the Word. Those moms we are competing with? They become teammates when we fight inborn pride and seek Him together, running towards the same finish line. And the prize at the end of the race? Meeting Jesus Christ face to face in all of His glory.
So to all you fellow moms out there, trying to do motherhood and life on your own—today is the day to stop looking inward for strength in those sleepless nights and exhausting days. Today is the day to reach out to others and up to God for help. Let’s encourage one another to get in the Bible this summer and to keep following Christ until that finish line. If we rely on Him for strength until the end of this marathon called motherhood, we can truly say, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”
Now I want to hear from you! What are some ways we can encourage moms when motherhood gets hard and the nights are long? How have you helped the moms in your life after having a baby? Let me and others know in the comment section below!
Side note: I know, I know... I don't look very sleep-deprived in the picture, but I wanted to share with you one of the pictures from our newborn photo session (Grant Little Photography) when Kate was five days old! And no, I didn't have heartburn! ;)
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