So in order to jazz up date night and add some spontaneity back into our relationship, my husband and I sat down and created this “Date Night Jar.” Basically each of us individually wrote down date night ideas on pieces of paper before stuffing them into a large jar we had on hand. (It’s even more fun to keep each other’s ideas as surprises). Then every week or so on “date night” all we have to do is draw an idea out of the jar and the activity for the night has been decided. No more wasting time contemplating what to do or where to eat that night!
When we created our Date Night Jar, I got a little more inventive and created five different date categories. This way we can choose a type of date based on our mood that day (or budget!). Here’s what I came up with:
- Budget Friendly (Purple) — Dates that cost $15 or less. Free is even better. Examples include board game night, a day at the beach, or a tour at a local winery.
- Everyday Extravagant (White) — These dates are less frequent (every 1-3 months) and a little more costly which may require some planning. An everyday extravagant date might be a night away at a hotel, cooking class, or live concert.
- The Great Outdoors (Yellow) — These are date ideas for when the weather is nice and all you want to do is be outside. This may include hiking, running a 5k together, wandering through a farmer’s market, or having picnic at a favourite park.
- For Rainy Days (Green) — For those less-than-ideal weather days. A rainy day date might be bowling or taking a painting class together.
- Foodie Lover’s Dates (Pink) — This is where the food is the date's main event. Maybe it’s trying a new restaurant, going out for sushi, or staying in to bake a dessert together.
Here's what to do for your very own do-it-yourself Date Night Jar.
DIY: Date Night Jar
- Coloured paper, cut into small pieces
- Glass jar or container
- Cooperative partner
- Convince spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend to participate in activity. (It may help to mention that he/she gets to decide on half of the activities for date night — with no complaining from you!)
- Research fun date ideas.
- Each partner individually writes ideas on separate pieces of paper (without sharing!).
- Place completed slips of paper in jar.
- Finally — each week or so on date night, take turns randomly selecting a date night idea from the jar… and off you go!