That being said, I’m not sure I was completely prepared for boyhood with all the dirt, scrapes & bruises, and roughhousing that come with it. Of course, this shouldn’t have come at a surprise to me as I grew up with three brothers of my own. But somewhere between leaving my childhood home and becoming a mom, I have become a little too cautious with safety and hand-washing. On top of that, you will usually find me preoccupied with keeping everyone and everything neat and tidy — which too often hinders my ability to live in the moment.
However, my obsession with cleanliness became a little too apparent the other day when we brought Liam for his first time fishing. Retrospectively, I should have enjoyed the process of Liam exploring and learning how to fish, but instead, I spent the first part of the morning chasing my husband around with hand sanitizer all the while trying to keep Liam out of the mud. Thankfully, it wasn’t too long before I realized how controlling (and slightly crazy) I must have looked, trying to keep two boys from being boys. I needed to find joy, not perfection, in this beautiful, everyday moment of raising a boy. And, I needed to ask God to make this change in my heart as well.
After this, I finally was able to relax a little and enjoy the rest of our “mini” fishing trip. (Which really wasn’t too hard — toddlers have really short attention spans!)
Does this sound familiar? If you’re a “type A” mom like me, how often do we let our micromanaging tendencies steal joy instead of allowing ourselves to enjoy simple moments with family? I urge you… Choose joy today, not perfection.
Here are some of my favourite photo’s from Liam’s first fishing trip: